The Perfect Marriage
Divorces Are Too Common		Working Towards Success			Measuring for Success			Sage Advise
To Many Marriages End in Divorce
According to the United States Census Bureau, both marriage rates and divorce rates have decreased from 2009 to 2019. The good news is divorce rates are decreasing faster than marriages are decreasing, the bad news is that it is estimated 39% of all marriages will eventually end in divorce. This is less than the cliched 50% but not by much. On average, a divorce occurs after 8 years from marriage. This is including all marriages but there is a way to decrease this, by mirroring the feasible actions of those who beat the odds. The internet is possibly the best place to spread information focused on improving marriage rates and overall satisfaction in marriages. Most people marry before 27 and this age group is more influenced by and exposed to the internet than TV and radio. If you are like me, you like being happy and a good marriage will make that easier than a failing one. If you want to get married just once and spend most of your life not questioning your decision, then follow these guidelines in order to achieve success in your marriage.
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10 Ways to Achieve Success
1. DECIDE IF MARRIAGE IS RIGHT FOR YOU Marriage will mean sacrifice. Maybe you’ve always wanted to travel the road on a 70’s hippie van. Once you are married, that could no longer be an option. Do you want to marry right now or in five years? Is marriage even right for you or are you better off living without a permanent partner. These are only a few things you should take into consideration when deciding if marriage is right for you.
				2. DO NOT COMPROMISE YOUR FINANCE, EDUCATION, OR CAREER A higher education correlates with lower divorce rates. This is also true about higher incomes. Growing up, something my parents constantly fought about was money.
3. WAIT A BIT Women who cohabitate or get married at age 18 have a 60% divorce rate, but women who wait until 23 to make either of those commitments have a divorce rate of around 30%. Maybe it is because you are more mature, or you now know what you do not want. Either way, waiting is better.
4. JUST DON’T WAIT TOO LONG People who committed to a partner before the age of 35 are 30% happier in their relationship than couple who committed at a later age. Spend time to live free and wild but have an idea in mind of when you want to settle down if at all.
5. MARRY SOMEONE THE SAME AGE The closer in age you are to your partner means lower chances of getting divorced. And they tend to be happier.
6. DON’T SHOTGUN IT Do not be blinded by biology. Those butterflies floating around your stomach and those moments that can only be encapsulates by a Drake song do not last forever. They are also very good at masking your partners flaws. It’s magical, but you should wait a year before deciding a lifelong decision.
7. HAVE A WIDE CIRCLE OF FRIENDS Couples with a wide circle of friends are less likely to divorce. Do not be needy. The more you can fulfill your own needs, the more a partner is right for you.
8. HAVE REGULAR DATE NIGHTS Schedule out some time out of each week to manage logistics, finances, trips, and all sorts or practical matters. Also schedule separate romantic dates, keep the love alive.
9. HAVE OPEN COMMUNICAITON AND TRUST Open communication and trust are essential in all relationships. Be honest with your partner and let them know what is going on in your mind.
.	10. CREATE 3 NON-NEGOTIABLES This is where you decide what must come along with your partner. Choose 3 non-negotiables, do you want to marry a model, a millionaire, a leader, a Democrat, a Republican, either, as long as they’re not extremists? Is having 3 kids non-negotiable for you, do they need to speak Spanish so they can go to the family gatherings and not feel awkward? Do you want someone with a cute smile? Maybe someone funny or maybe you want to marry someone with Christian values. Pick 3 things you absolutely need in your partner.
Measuring Success
v 3 S.M.A.R.T. business objectives for measuring success. v First, we measure the current Divorce rate, Marriage rate, and ask couples to rate their happiness level. v This should be done in Sacramento first as a sample size before exhausting resources on a larger scale. v Then, we measure the same rates after 5 years of spreading the knowledge. Lower Divorce Rates § Specific: Can we lower the divorce rates significantly in Sacramento? § Measurable: Before and after divorce rate will be measured. § Achievable: Absolutely, people want to avoid divorce as long as they are with the right partner. § Realistic: People get married every day; it is possible to educate enough people to make a positive impact. § Time-Bound: 5 years § Flat Marriages Rates § Specific: Can we prevent marriage rates from dropping in Sacramento? § Measurable: Before and after marriage rates will be measured. § Achievable: We will work on spreading these tips make marriage attractive, making people want to get married. § Realistic: It is realistically achievable within the timeframe. § Time-Bound: 5 years Increase Happy Couples § Specific: Can we increase happiness in couple of Sacramento? § Measurable: Before and after happiness based on married couples will be measured. § Achievable: People want to be happier and have control over this. § Realistic: It is a realistically achievable within the timeframe. § Time-Bound: 5 years
Sage Advice
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